15 Toxic ‘Manly’ Traits That Seriously Need To Go
Defining manhood has no universal answer—it truly depends on how you choose to embody being a man. It’s time to discard outdated ‘manly’ traits that no longer serve us and also fail to accurately represent men.
Feeling Paranoid about “Girly” Drinks
The idea that certain drinks are “girly” because they are sweet, colorful, or less alcoholic is a stark example of how deeply gender stereotypes are embedded in our culture.
Every time the label “girly” is applied to a drink, it reinforces outdated notions of what men and women are supposed to like.
Should Men Fear Sweet Treats?
The truth is, taste preferences have nothing to do with gender. Associating sweetness with femininity is as illogical as saying men should avoid all sweet foods.
Should men skip ice cream or fruit desserts because they’re sweet? Of course not. Enjoying a variety of flavors, including those found in “girly” drinks, is a simple pleasure that everyone should feel free to indulge in without fear of judgment.
Mansplaining
Mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman in a condescending manner, often oversimplifying topics she is already knowledgeable on. This behavior, which is seen as talking down to women, has its roots in traditional gender roles.
Common examples of this behavior include phrases like, “I’ll explain it to you later, you wouldn’t understand it now,” or “This is really complex, let me simplify it for you.”
Time to Replace Mansplaining with Respect!
Gentlemen, it’s time to let go of old habits—mansplaining is annoying and also reflects a lack of respect for women’s knowledge and capabilities.
To move beyond such outdated interactions, gentlemen need to recognize and correct this behavior, fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
Skipping Sunscreen
Neglecting to use sunscreen exposes your skin to harmful UV rays, leading to immediate concerns like sunburns and severe long-term issues such as skin cancer and premature aging. Regular use of sunscreen is a smart choice that reflects a commitment to maintaining health and vitality.
A Manly Necessity
Consider the wide array of risks associated with skipping sunscreen, including dry skin, uneven skin tone, sunspots, scars, and skin discoloration.
If risking these side effects seems like a fair trade for maintaining a rugged image, think again. Choosing to skip sunscreen is a gamble with your health.
Pretending to Know Everything
There’s a significant pressure on men to always appear tough, knowledgeable, and in control. This expectation to maintain a façade of invulnerability is exhausting and also limits personal growth.
Redefining Strength
Embracing a broader definition of strength, which includes qualities like empathy, compassion, and emotional intelligence, is healthier approach that more men should start adopting.
Men must realize that it’s OKAY not to have all the answers and that admitting vulnerabilities can lead to richer, more authentic interactions with others.
Feeling Hesitant to Wear Makeup
Men are trying out makeup, and it’s more than just a trend! Makeup is not longer for women—it’s for any gentleman who chooses to use it, regardless of his sexual orientation, gender identity, or cultural background (Note: it’s perfectly acceptable not to wear makeup as well!)
A Genderless History
Historically, men and masculine-identifying individuals have used makeup for thousands of years across various cultures, demonstrating its longstanding role beyond gender boundaries.
The Acceptance of Men’s Makeup
Research supports the modern acceptance of makeup for men as well. In one study, male faces adorned with makeup were rated as more attractive than those without, by both male and female judges.
This finding held true regardless of the method of analysis, indicating a broad appreciation for enhanced features through cosmetics.
Makeup in Modern Masculinity
Further emphasizing this shift, a 2022 study by Ipsos revealed that 15% of heterosexual American men between ages 18 and 65 currently use cosmetics, with an additional 17% open to trying them in the future.
These statistics show a growing acceptance and interest in makeup among men, reflecting a progressive change in societal attitudes towards gender norms and personal grooming.
Refusing to Ask for Directions
The stereotype that men should never ask for directions continues to promote the idea that admitting uncertainty is a sign of weakness (or as they believe, femininity).
In reality, asking for help when needed is a mark of practical intelligence and confidence—qualities that are far more valuable than stubborn independence.
Avoiding Face Masks
Think face masks are just a girly thing? Surprise, surprise, they’re meant for everyone.
These masks significantly enhance skin smoothness and elasticity by allowing water to penetrate deep into the epidermis, leading to a plumper and more youthful appearance. Hydration is essential for keeping skin full and bright, effectively combating sagging, wrinkles, and other aging signs.
Skincare Is Self-love
Despite these advantages, some men still skip face masks, which are particularly important in environments prone to pollution.
Incorporating face masks into your daily routine doesn’t mean you’re less of a man—it’s an act of self-love that ensures you both look and feel great. Embracing this aspect of skincare can enhance your health and confidence without compromising your manhood.
Criticizing Men for Personal Grooming
Gone are the days when grooming was seen as purely feminine.
Today, taking pride in one’s appearance is recognized as a sign of self-respect and professionalism, evident in many male celebrities who are sharing and embracing their skincare routines. Critiquing men for investing time in their grooming habits only supports outdated stereotypes and discourages self-care.
Giving the “Silent” Treatment
Just as you wouldn’t want women to use it, the same goes for men. Relying on the silent treatment to avoid tough conversations or to express displeasure is an immature and ineffective way to communicate.
A relationship between two mature people thrives on open and honest communication, not on immature, non-verbal side-eyes!
Fear of Emotional Expression
Men often grapple with the fear of being judged for showing emotions, worried that it might be perceived as a sign of weakness or a deviation from traditional masculinity. This anxiety can lead men to suppress their feelings, distancing themselves even from those closest to them.
Breaking Emotional Barriers
Deep within this facade of stoicism lies a pervasive denial—many men find themselves detached from their true emotions, striving to uphold an image of strength and resilience.
Why do men share this profound fear of emotions? It may stem from outdated patriarchal norms that dictated strict roles for men. But it’s time for change—men are human, and all humans experience a full spectrum of emotions that need to be out!
Stressing Over Competition
Men have often been seen as fiercer competitors in the workplace, a perception linked to evolutionary pressures where competition for reproductive and productive resources was more intense for men than women.
Rethinking Competitive Extremes
While a healthy level of competition can be motivating, pushing it to extremes in every aspect of life, from work to recreational activities, can be draining and may alienate others.
It’s important to remember that being competitive doesn’t have to be tied to your masculinity. Instead of trying to be the ‘best’, demonstrating confidence and self-assurance in a balanced way is way more sustainable and earns you more respect and admiration from others.
Judging Other Men for Liking “Feminine” Stuff
Why do we judge men for enjoying things labeled as “feminine”? Society often mocks men who express interest in activities or preferences traditionally seen as feminine, perceiving them as lowering themselves by associating with traits deemed less desirable. This viewpoint is deeply entrenched in outdated gender norms that equate femininity with weakness or inferiority.
Men should feel free to engage in any activities that appeal to them—be it following beauty routines, fashion trends, or even enjoying genres of entertainment like romantic films.
Men Like Chick Flicks Just As Much As Women Do!
Interestingly, research conducted by Professor Richard Harris at Kansas State University illustrates that these stereotypes don’t always hold water. In his study, both men and women were asked to rate their enjoyment of a romantic movie.
While women rated it highly, men also showed a significant appreciation for the film, contrary to the common stereotype. This finding suggests that men do enjoy romantic content and often mutually decide with their partners to watch such movies, challenging the notion that such preferences are only feminine or unworthy of male interest.
Neglecting Self-Care and Wellness Activities
Often, men skip self-care and wellness because it’s perceived as unnecessary or overly indulgent (in other words, meant only for girls.)
This mindset neglects the benefits of regular health and wellness routines that ensure long-term physical and mental health. Embracing these practices can lead to a healthier, more fulfilled life—something that both men and women should strive for.
Fearing to Cry (Especially In Front of Someone)
Biologically, men might cry less than women due to hormonal differences—testosterone may inhibit crying while prolactin, which is higher in women, may promote it.
However, the reluctance to cry in men is heavily influenced by cultural norms.
Men’s Right to Tears
In many societies, men are expected to be stoic and unemotional, a belief that discourages men from crying openly. This stigma can make men feel that it’s unacceptable to show vulnerability, leading them to hide their tears and suffer in silence.
This ‘manly’ behavior needs to be left behind because showing emotions is a sign of being in touch with one’s feelings—a strength, not a weakness.
Thinking that Household Chores Are Only for Women
Contrary to the popular belief about men and household chores, men who tackle domestic duties without complaint are actually seen as more capable and responsible—traits that are admirable in any humanbeing, regardless of gender.
Today, many men are actively involved in household chores, though some still approach these tasks reluctantly.
Balancing Household Duties
Household management often falls unevenly between genders in heterosexual relationships, with women disproportionately handling the “invisible labor.”
This imbalance can strain relationships and negatively impact mental health. A survey by Grazia in 2020 revealed that 73% of women living with a partner felt they did more of this invisible labor, and 55% said it adversely affected their mental health.
Perception and Domestic Tasks
Philosophical discussions, like those involving “affordance theory” from researchers at Cambridge University, suggest that perception of tasks within the home is often gendered.
Women are more likely to notice chores that need doing and feel a greater sense of responsibility to act. This theory suggests that tasks invite participation differently based on gender perceptions.
Sharing Chores Is Caring!
Men need to recognize that engaging in household chores is not a matter of undermining manhood but embracing basic life skills essential for personal and shared well-being.
Acknowledging and sharing these responsibilities can lead to healthier relationships and a more equitable distribution of domestic work.