When you become a parent, so many changes will come your way. Overnight, you may feel like your world is completely different, and in some cases, it could be. One aspect of this you might not have thought of before is how becoming a parent can change your marriage. Here’s a look at what you should expect.
Ways Relationship Changes After Having A Baby
Every marriage is different, but there will undoubtedly be changes that you must adjust to once your baby comes into the world.
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You Can Grow Closer
New parents will become closer as they raise their children in some instances. This could be because you are seeing your mate in a new light. Once you get used to the early mornings and late nights, you might understand that you are a team that can get things accomplished. This can help you appreciate each other and strengthen your marriage.
You May Not Have Time to Talk
Even if you made it a point to talk to your partner every day before you gave birth, it might not be easy to do so after delivery. There is so much to do, and you might have to learn how to manage your time when caring for a newborn. Of course, after a while, you may be able to work conversations into your routine, so you can keep up with each other.
It Can Be Difficult to Find Time to Be Intimate
As you can imagine, if you are unable to find the time to speak with one another, it can be next to impossible to find the time to be intimate. Moreover, it might take a while for a mom to feel comfortable with intimacy after having a baby. She may be uncomfortable for months in case of a C-section delivery or self-conscious because of the post-pregnancy body changes.
Together you can determine the correct time to be intimate with each other. Just remember to be patient and respectful of one another in the meantime.
You Might Argue More Than Usual
For some couples, arguing may be more frequent, especially if one parent is responsible for most of the care for the baby. You might disagree on things that must be done and how they should be done. Additionally, a parent may become frustrated when he/she isn’t getting any help around the house. Evidence suggests that women may not be content in their relationship after having kids whenever they are not getting support from their husbands.
If you are a mom that needs help completing chores or taking care of your own needs, you can talk to loved ones and see if they are willing to lend a hand. Alternatively, if you suspect that you may need mental health support, you should reach out to a therapist when you feel the need to do so.
You Will Most Likely Stay Tired and Busy
Once your infant comes home from the hospital, you may endure months of interrupted sleep and endless tasks to finish. This is expected but can be a lot to get used to. Being tired and busy could cause you to become grumpy and hard to get along with. At the same time, you should do everything you can to get along with your spouse and help each other in any way you can.
You are likely aware that having children changes many things in your life. It can even affect your marriage. Of course, this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. When you are about to become a new parent, consider these changes above, so you can address them if they come up. It’s best if you are able to divide chores and childcare evenly as possible or if a new mom has additional help when she needs it.
Always remember that you love each other, and you are in this marriage together. This may be able to keep you from becoming overwhelmed.
This article was developed via a partnership with BetterHelp.